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I just want to share our story and how we got through the process.

First of all I am not a woman, I want to tell this story on behalf of my girlfriend who got pregnant.

Mistakes were made and it could not be undone. Mahigit 1 month nang pregnant ang girlfriend ko nung nag pregnancy test kami, ayaw kasi namin maniwala parehas na buntis sya. Pero nung lumabas ang result, positive at medyo in a state of shock ako. We both have a descent job but she's younger more than me and she said that she's not yet ready to have a baby.

But on my side, nandyan na eh and i am willing to take he responsibility and the mistake that i made. Pero ayaw talaga ng girlfriend ko ituloy.

So at first pinahanap nya ako ng mga ways or medicines para safely ma-abort ang dinadala nya. We tried parsley tea, over dosage of vitamin c, pineapple, papaya at dong quai capsules. Nabasa ko kasi na nakakapag abort using these natural remedies at safe daw. But they all failed.

So i tried searching online for abortion meds. May nakita kong iba.
I tried contacting them and nagreply naman sila. But i still searched online for a more legit seller.

And then i found this website, nakita ko rin na halos lahat at kay ms. Ella bumibili and nabasa ko din na trusted seller sya. So i contacted her through text and she replied and gave me instructions on how to make payments and such. I made my payment through bank deposit, inaamin ko at that point nag ddoubt pa din talaga ako, iniisip ko na paano kung mascam ako? Kung hindi ipadala mga meds? Easy money for ms.ella? All i could do was to trust that the meds will come. And they did. Kinabukasan natanggap ko agad ang cyto kit na inorder ko sa kanya. She also sent me the instructions through facebook. Very thorough ang instructions at hindi naman mahirap sundin.

And so the day came, ang araw kung saan gagawin na namin ng girlfriend ko ang process. Until the final minute tinatanong ko sya kung gusto ba nya talaga ituloy, dahil ako ayoko talaga, pero naaawa din ako sa kanya dahil ayaw nya magbuntis at isa din kasi sya sa inaasahan ng magulang nya to support their family.

Bago namin gawin we prepared mentally and physically. We brought necessary things na kakailanganin namin during the procedure. Adult diapers, alcohol, lubricant, gloves, etc.
And so we started with the procedure. Sabi ni ms.ella sa instructions ay magchchill daw at lalagnatin, and yun nga nagchill at nilagnat nga ang girlfriend ko. Awang awa ako sa kanya during the procedure, sinsabihan ko sya​ na itigil na kung hindi nya kaya. But she insisted na ituloy lang namin at kakayanin nya. She was in pain, seeing her in pain really breaks my heart, i wish I could share her pain. Dinugo na sya agad during the procedure but we still continued until matapos, at hanggang matapos she was really in pain. Masakit daw sobra and puson nya at nilalagnat pa sya. I stayed by her side until the next day.

Nung nagising kami halos mag 11 am na. Masakit pa rin daw puson nya pero hindi nakatulad nung ginagawa namin yung procedure, naglakad lakad sya at nag akyat baba sa hagdann ng maraming beses, isa kasi yun sa instructions ni ms.ella.
And after a few minutes may naramdaman sya na may lumalabas sa kanya, lumabas na yung fetus at mga buo buong laman sa kanya. I took care of it and her. Ang sabi ni ms. Ella i-ire lang daw at i-expell lahat, and so she did. We took hours on expelling everything. Nailabas lahat ng girlfriend ko and i was thankful for that. Nababasa ko kasi dito sa blog na may mga iba na hindi nalalabas lahat at kailangan iparaspa para matanggal lahat nang naiwan.

After that i buried my child, masakit para sakin dahil i wanted him to live, hindi ko sya naipaglaban at nasagip mula saamin. Mas pinili ko ang hiling ng nanay nya na ipalaglag sya. Naglagay ako ng white flower na plant kung saan ko sya inilibing at tinalian ko ng puting ribbon na kasama ng meds na galing kay ms.ella. yes may kasamang puting ribbon ang kit, hindi ko alam kung bawat umoorder sa kanya eh nilalagyan nya nun or kung nagkataon na saakin lang.

It will set as a reminder for me and for my girlfriend, hindi na namin uulitin at hindi na rin namin hahayaan ang sarili namin na magkamali.

A few days after we went to an ob-gyn for a check up. Wag kayong matakot magpcheck up, it's good to know kung may complications ba or kung may hindi magandang nangyari during the procedure. Basta wag lang kayong aamin na nag take kayo ng meds for abortion. Una, dahil bawal ang gamot na to sa pinas and second wala naman silang magagawa kung nagpaabort man kayom their job is to ensure that you're alright.

Our ob-gym suggest to have a trans V ultrasound and lumabas na wala namang naiwan na tissues sa loob ng girlfriend ko. Open pa raw ang cervix nya kaya until the time of her check up eh nagbbleed pa sya. Our doctor prescribed us medicines and a follow-up check up after a week.

So far my girlfriend is doing ok at masigla ma sya ulit, wala na syang nararamdaman na pain at almost wala na ding bleeding. I think she is close to full recovery.

Thank you for taking your time to read our story. lahat tayo ay may kanya kanyang reason kung bakit natin ito gagawin. Pero bago mo gawin, pagisipan mo munang maigi. Maging handa physically and emotionally, hangga't maaari ay wag mo itong gawin magisa. Mahirap ang pagdadaanan mo, hindi biro at hindi ka pwedeng umatras kapag nasimulan mo na. Kung maibabalik ko lang ay sana hindi ko na ginawa, habang buhay kong dadalhin ang ginawa ko at ng girlfriend ko. Sana ay matuto tayo sa mga pagkakamali natin at matuto rin na pagisipan ang mga bagay na gagawin natin.